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Eireanne · 08-03-2009, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by possum

I suppose I am a bit embarrassed that I can't control my eating and it needs to be forced onto me - but on the other hand, I need to admit that I can't control it

Wow, I know EXACTLY how you feel!! I've told my "work husband" (who is also a close friend outside of work) and his wife, my boss's boss (who took me to a seminar about 6 months after she had her surgery), and two friends (a couple), one of whom had surgery 5 years ago (and the other of whom is retired and will be taking me to/from the hospital and checking in on me). Between those 5 people, I have a pretty good support network. Add you all into the mix, and I feel pretty good about it.

As soon as I can, I'll get back to the gym (we have one here at work), so people can see I'm working at it. If they ask me directly, then I'll decided at that time what to tell them. Right now, it's none of their business.

I'm so glad to see I'm not the only one not telling anyone!!

Laureate · 08-22-2009, 07:13 PM

I only told my boss and then two people I respect very much over his head at the corporate level.

I have not told the employees I supervise or anyone else at our business, which employs about 50 people. I've heard the recovery can be an emotional time, and I just didn't want to be answering questions -- especially: So how much weight have you lost. Also: Should you be eating that?

After the initial recovery, I may share. Or I may not.

We'll see.

TooManyExcuses · 09-09-2009, 12:47 PM

outside of my cousin and my wife - I have told no one. I will inform my brother, mother and step father possibly when I have a confirmed date so they can take of if they wish. But I have thought of never telling them also. I plan on telling my boss that I am in the hospital because I was havng difficulty breathing and then I will call the next day before discharge so he knows I stayed overnight, when he asks if everythign is alright I will simply say "the dr. says if I want to live, i need to lose weight." I will take some sick days and come back to work and when asked by coworker friends if everything is alright I will tell them yes and that I need to lose weight and that I am going to be on a dr. monitored and strict supervised diet. So far none of this is a lie and it all will explain my actions for the upcoming weeks turning into months, and as the weight decreases they will account it to being on this diet. We have a gym here at work so I will use it cause I need to and it will strengthen my story. Since my diet is being supervised by a Dr. my folowup visits for teh surgery will already be prebuilt in and when I need to leave early for a Dr. appointment, they will expect it

Laureate · 09-09-2009, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by TooManyExcuses

outside of my cousin and my wife - I have told no one. I will inform my brother, mother and step father possibly when I have a confirmed date so they can take of if they wish. But I have thought of never telling them also. I plan on telling my boss that I am in the hospital but that I was havng difficulty breathing and I will call the next day before discharge so he knows I stayed overnight, when he asks if everythign is alright I will simply say "the dr. says if I want to live, i need to lose weight. I will take some sick days and come back to work and when asked by coworker friends if everythign is alright I will tell them yes and that I need to lose weight and that I am going to be on a monitored and strict supervised diet. So far none of this is a lie and it all will explain my actions for the upcoming weeks turning into months, and as the weight decreases they will account it to being on a diet. We have a gym here at work so I will use it cause I need to and it will strengthen my story

I think that is a fabulous plan, and I just might borrow elements from it!

TooManyExcuses · 09-09-2009, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Laureate

I think that is a fabulous plan, and I just might borrow elements from it!

I am not telling my boss, his boss, or human resources or disabiity about it. And my kids dont know. They will know I went to the hospital and had some tests run. I am not mentioning surgery cause then I am left with 3 options tell them what the surgery was adn ruin what I dont want to ruin, make up soemthing but that is a lie I would have to keep up or tell them it is none of their business wich I think is teh worse choice. when you dont want to give up the info adn it is not readily noticable, everyone thinks the most disgusting thing they can. I rather them know I had WLS than to think I am having my butthole rerouted thru my peehole so it is easier to wipe. It is human nature to think the worst. I dont want to be looked at like I work at a carnival

UndercoverDiva · 09-09-2009, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by TooManyExcuses

I rather them know I had WLS than to think I am having my butthole rerouted thru my peehole so it is easier to wipe. It is human nature to think the worst. I dont want to be looked at like I work at a carnival

Lady_Prime · 09-22-2009, 11:38 AM

I have told my coworkers, boss and just about everyone that I had the surgery and I don't regret it. IMHO, I feel that knowledge is power and if my surgery has helped others to think about getting it for themselves, then I'm all for it.

I've had NOTHING but positive responses regarding this. People tell me that I'm "melting" away..which is fine. For those others who snub their noses at me, I just say "**** 'em"...

hollycerniglia · 09-22-2009, 11:48 AM

I told everyone at work. I even announced it on facebook and myspace that I was having the surgery. I am proud of it so why hide it.

LaChica707 · 09-22-2009, 11:54 AM

I've told my group here at work... Everyone seems to be supportive about my choice..the only thing... I GET HIGHLY irritated when my Boss stares at me and asks.. Are you sure you wanna go thru with "that" surgery?.. I'M THINKING DUDE.. WTF?! Are you saying that because you're scared something might happen to me, or is it because HES DREADING THE FACT that instead of me doing all the work.. HE'S GONNA HAVE TO DO IT when i'm gone... Either case.. it bugs me.

The only reason why I let him know.. Is because he's gonna have to do my work while I'm out.

other than that - I really didn't have to.. But I swear.. When he says that to me I get OFFENDED.

He says: You don't really need that.. you could do it on your own.

Me: (aahh go Fk urself thinkin this in my head) I don't really wanna explain my life story. So that is that. I'm having surgery I don't want to discuss it with you.

He: Gets offended. with pissy face and walks away.

i tried to explain it to him.. how my whole life i've been the big girl... yadda yadda yadda...
And he just gave me this NIKE commercial speech about how "i can DO IT"..

I'm thinking.. you didn't hear one freakin word you fruckin moron.. why am I wasting time???....

MY WHOLE LIFE- that should've been ENOUGH. lame ass..

Lady_Prime · 09-22-2009, 02:06 PM

Ohhh LaChica, I totally hear you on this one!!

People don't understand that it's not just getting off of your butt to exercise. My weight issue was completely hereditary even when I got off my butt and exercised. I didn't have an overeating issue either...

That guy sounds like a complete tool. I'm here to support you!!