I finally did it!!!
Posted 08-29-2008 at 04:45 PM by ivana
I have a special situation in my job. I am a personal assistant and my job is wonderful. My boss is a very health conscious older gentleman who is in fabulous shape and has always lived a life of wellness and health. Unlike myself who is 42 years old and a 100 pounds overweight. I was having a personal dilema if I should tell him about my surgery and just request my vacation time or just come clean and be open about the 12 month process i have just completed. I decided to come clean and have the "discussion". He was very understanding. Since then everyday he has been having discussions with me about the WLS and his own ideas about it and today he left me some paperwork on the proper way to eat. I respect his views and concerns, but my mind is made up and I have a feeling that he will become mad if i go thru with my plan. This is putting extra pressure on me. When we spoke it wasn't up for discussion it was more of an informational chat. I am holding toght with my well thought out planned decision for surgery. I think i should have gone with option #1 and kept my mouth shut. my surgery date is 10/6 and i am so excited, this feels right for me. I can understand why it might seem extreme for those who have not had to walk this path.
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I have been thinking about this issue for awhile now. I know at some point I am going to have to meet with my HR department about the time off I am going to need. Even though it is a big place, word gets around fast and I already know that there are some in that department that talk even though you know it is not suppose to happen. Still I have reserves about telling my immediate co-workers. I know I don't need to explain my decision to them but I have a feeling I will be doing that. I know some will not understand the decision I have taken so much time to make. I am still anxious about telling my family. Being 1300 miles away from them, and not seeing them very often, they are not going to see the changes as the happen. It has been 6 months since I have seen them and it will possibly be 6 months or more after surgery that I will see them again. They know I have been dealing with other medical issues that have prevented me from exercising so those issues being resolved would be explaination enough but still... Aside from making the decision to have surgery this is the biggest one I have been faced with and am torn with which way to proceed.
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Wow, that's a tough work situation. Since it is just you and the boss, I suppose it's really hard to keep personal boundary lines drawn. As a boss, he is not supposed to get too personal with you. I think poking his nose into your diet is really inching over that line. You sat him down and told him that you are having a medical procedure and will need time off. He should have accepted it and moved on. I'm proud of you for sticking to your guns, but worried what will happen when you come back. I hope he doesn't keep pushing the boundaries! Keep being strong and standing your ground. After 12 months of education, I'm sure you're knowledgable enough to counter anything he says. GOOD LUCK!
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Hi Ivana,
I am sorry that you have to deal with this situation. I was super nervous to tell my boss for fear that I would have to explain what surgery I needed time off for, but he just asked if I was going to be okay. He didn't ask any questions beyond if I was going to be alright and I was so relieved. And then I got a voicemail from HR about my leave not being under FMLA so now I think I am going to have a discussion with HR about it. Always one more hurdle, right?  Your post really caught my eye because your surgery is scheduled for three days before mine. I think it would be fun to stay in touch as we go through this process! Have a good night!  |
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