When I started losing friends
Posted 04-05-2008 at 03:58 PM by bridgetgirl
8/22/04
I was talking to a friend of mine that I have known for many, many years and she said that her and another friend of ours that I have known for about 12 years were talking on the phone, and they were discussing that they don’t speak to me very much anymore... get this.... she says, " We all have our own opinion on how things are now that you've had your surgery." Also she says, "You call me and you visit sometimes but you never ask me if I want to go out with you, I feel like you think I'm not good enough to hang out with you anymore." WTF! I didn’t know how to react... imagine that, me with a loss for words!
They think I don’t talk to them anymore because I feel like I’m too good for them now. What does that say for the way they felt about themselves?
I don’t associate with them as much as I use to because I'm busy, I have a different lifestyle now. I'd rather be at support group, or walking or something more active. I also have realized that I don’t have to be friends with people that I don’t admire and barely respect anymore. My best girlfriend Toni said that she felt I was too mean now that I had surgery. I don’t think I’m being mean; I just don’t want to hang with losers anymore. (Was that mean?) As I have grown I realized some of my "friends" and I don’t have much in common anymore. I don’t know what to say or do, but I don’t want them to blame my surgery for my new attitude....... what is one to do? Where's my Oprah?
I was talking to a friend of mine that I have known for many, many years and she said that her and another friend of ours that I have known for about 12 years were talking on the phone, and they were discussing that they don’t speak to me very much anymore... get this.... she says, " We all have our own opinion on how things are now that you've had your surgery." Also she says, "You call me and you visit sometimes but you never ask me if I want to go out with you, I feel like you think I'm not good enough to hang out with you anymore." WTF! I didn’t know how to react... imagine that, me with a loss for words!
They think I don’t talk to them anymore because I feel like I’m too good for them now. What does that say for the way they felt about themselves?
I don’t associate with them as much as I use to because I'm busy, I have a different lifestyle now. I'd rather be at support group, or walking or something more active. I also have realized that I don’t have to be friends with people that I don’t admire and barely respect anymore. My best girlfriend Toni said that she felt I was too mean now that I had surgery. I don’t think I’m being mean; I just don’t want to hang with losers anymore. (Was that mean?) As I have grown I realized some of my "friends" and I don’t have much in common anymore. I don’t know what to say or do, but I don’t want them to blame my surgery for my new attitude....... what is one to do? Where's my Oprah?
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OK Bridget,
this is getting serious - you are writing my life on my behalf approx. 6 weeks ahead of me! How true/freaky is that?! Carbon copy relationship this end. 16 1/2 years down the drain over here. Very sad to see it go, but I'm taking no crap no more! Do get Skype Bridget! Cheers, Vim |
 
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