Unexpected support!
Posted 12-04-2007 at 02:28 AM by AnnieH
Wow!
I decided to initially not tell anybody about my surgery considerations until I had made up my mind about going through with it. I was concerned about the stigma attached to it - especially here in South Africa where their is pathetically little info about it! After I had made my decision and went to the info session I decided it was time to share with a select few. So, my best friend was the first to know - and she was amazing. She has committed to supporting me -emotionally, as a shopper / driver / nurse, whatever I need. phew! The other person was my mom. Now this was a little stressful! She has never understood my weight issues well and because of that, hasn't been the greatest support in any diets etc. Also being the only person in my entire family with weight probems it has been put down to my lack of self control - period. When she asked me where i was going on the day I went to the info session, I merely said "an obesity clinic". She had quite a reaction! She assumed it was a "fat farm" and that they would put me on such a strict diet I would inevitably fail again. When I came back, I told her I have decided to have surgery. She went white as a sheet! But surprisingly she came around very quickly starting off with a very drawn out "okkkaaaayyyy..."! I told her more about it - the pros and cons, the costs, the time frame, and most importantly, my NEED for this. She looked through some of my literature on it and agrees that it is the best option. She said she is quite scared for me (she doesnt like any surgery ever) but will support me and is even excited for me!!! Her support means so much to me. I knew I needed her to know and support me, but I never bothered to expect her to agree with my decision!
I cant believe the huge weight that is off my shoulders knowing she knows and will stand by me. I realise that most of my initial hesitation has been fear over my family's response and attitude. She will tell me dad (she knows best how to!) and I'm still deciding whether my brother and SIL need to know. At this stage I'm happy to go along with just these people knowing and we take it from there. Once I get through the surgery and see the pounds start shedding, the inevitable questions of HOW can be answered then!
Yay for me - I AM LOVED!!
I decided to initially not tell anybody about my surgery considerations until I had made up my mind about going through with it. I was concerned about the stigma attached to it - especially here in South Africa where their is pathetically little info about it! After I had made my decision and went to the info session I decided it was time to share with a select few. So, my best friend was the first to know - and she was amazing. She has committed to supporting me -emotionally, as a shopper / driver / nurse, whatever I need. phew! The other person was my mom. Now this was a little stressful! She has never understood my weight issues well and because of that, hasn't been the greatest support in any diets etc. Also being the only person in my entire family with weight probems it has been put down to my lack of self control - period. When she asked me where i was going on the day I went to the info session, I merely said "an obesity clinic". She had quite a reaction! She assumed it was a "fat farm" and that they would put me on such a strict diet I would inevitably fail again. When I came back, I told her I have decided to have surgery. She went white as a sheet! But surprisingly she came around very quickly starting off with a very drawn out "okkkaaaayyyy..."! I told her more about it - the pros and cons, the costs, the time frame, and most importantly, my NEED for this. She looked through some of my literature on it and agrees that it is the best option. She said she is quite scared for me (she doesnt like any surgery ever) but will support me and is even excited for me!!! Her support means so much to me. I knew I needed her to know and support me, but I never bothered to expect her to agree with my decision!
I cant believe the huge weight that is off my shoulders knowing she knows and will stand by me. I realise that most of my initial hesitation has been fear over my family's response and attitude. She will tell me dad (she knows best how to!) and I'm still deciding whether my brother and SIL need to know. At this stage I'm happy to go along with just these people knowing and we take it from there. Once I get through the surgery and see the pounds start shedding, the inevitable questions of HOW can be answered then!
Yay for me - I AM LOVED!!
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