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Gina in NY · 04-06-2006, 02:13 PM

You do know the rate of divorce for WLS patients is much higher than the national average, right? I am not being a doom sayer, just wanted to be sure you know. It is a very difficult period and couples are very vulnerable. Change can be difficult, even when it is positive change.

My husband is out of work and has to do a lot more than he used to as this is my crunch time of year. I basically gave him a choice, get a job you hate and we'll send the baby to a sitter, and hire someone to clean that house, or stay home, do the laundry etc. He's in training for a new job, so I know the time will come that he's bring in money too, but there have been some trying moments. I also had to let go to some "do it my way" ideas of child rearing. Sometimes I get home and the baby is still in her pajamas. Makes me INSANE but I have realized, as long as she has a clean diaper, she's okay, I can't pick. Now if she was out playing by the pool unsupervised, that would be different. Or watching TV all day - I have had to put my foot down about that.

Anyway, it is work when the roles are reversed and you are carrying so much. You also need to take care of yourself pre-op. I understand your need to keep the two jobs, but you get to quit one really soon, right?? I think you're all going to be pushed to the brink with your schedule - the kids too!