Check this out, preoperativelt my best friend was a guy, Dante. He used to flirt with me, and pay me compliments all the time. He was my best friend and he loved me, I saw it as flirting-not as "he totally wants to get with me". But never the less we were very close, for 10 years. After surgery he was still the same way, but then he came at me totally hands on. It creeped me out, I asked him to stop and told him I looked at like a brother and nothing more.
It got to the point where I was afraid to fall asllep in the same house as him, i had to stop talking to him altogether because he disrespected me in a BIG way..... again TOTALLY creeping me out.
I think the attraction is always there with your male buddies, but when we are large we APPEAR intimidating, as you get smaller you look softer and people have a tendency to be more attracted to that kind of appearance.
Are we ever satisified with member of the opposite sex's reactions to our change? I mean our good friends get touchy feely and we get all ticked off, then you run into an ex and they dont say anything, like the way you look now is no big deal, and again were upset about that too.
Our problem? I think we THINK to friggin' much!
Just keep on keepin on, know your boundaries, accept nothing less, and do what makes YOU happy!
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J.Bridget Fisher aka koi-pea
2/9/04 lap 5'11"
298/170-trying to lose another 10
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"People will argue with you that getting what you want in life isn’t something you can learn, if you’re destined to be one of the worlds winners as opposed to one of its perpetual whiners, its because you have been born with the right talents and temperament and have a big dose of self-esteem, ambition, and good judgment." Kate White