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Old 11-06-2009, 09:42 AM   #15 (permalink)
Phatlady
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Connecticut
WLS Type: Gastric Bypass
Surgeon: DR. NEIL FLOCH
Start Weight: 303
Current Weight: 219
Goal Weight: 145
Surgery Date: 10/19/2009
Age: 46
Posts: 551
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I got that the fiancee did know after she admitted to lying and covering for her bff and all hell broke lose.
All things point to her not having found her true self and not being able to keep up with her new exterior.
She needs to step back from all this drama and reevaluate.
She isn't just pretty, she appears to be stunning!
And I am sure men are falling at her feet.
But, I am completely worried that she mentioned the threat of physical abuse. No threat should ever be taken lightly and if she felt a need to let that slip, she is aware that there is something unsettling about this guy. And I would guess it is not the only abusive thing that has happened between them.
As for the finance, I think since she has experienced a much more exciting and fulfilling relationship with the BF and the fact that she has continued back two timing him after breaking up with the BF once, tells me she is NOT ready to commit to the fiance and will likely repeat this behavior over and over as she has not done the work for herself that she needs to.
I, too was skinny and attractive once many moons ago (Stopped eating for six months and went down to 145 pounds), and I could not get the men off of me and it was a head trip. You are the same person inside but boys want your body, HUH?!
The mental health part of this is so important.
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