Henry,
I'm so sorry about the pain and suffering that your surgery caused you. It sounds like a nightmare. I hope that you can find relief for your pain, and comfort for your soul.
But, it sounds to me like what you're suffering from is MORE than just complications of the surgery itself. You mention, on several occasions, that you had no support, and the person that you had authorized as your POA was not allowed to fulfill his duty as such. You also state that the hospital staff would not allow him to come in and be your advocate.
The fact that your designated support person was not allowed to fulfill his duty because he was "run off from the hospital because he is so timid" is just that. That is an issue that you should bring up with the hospital staff and patient advocate. But, when I read your stories you always tie the two together, that of WLS and improper handling of your support person. Perhaps your decision to appoint a POA that was too "timid" to do his job has something to do with it.
Is Dr. Callery directly to blame for the $8000. in checks that were sitting in your mailbox that did not get deposited? Was his staff to blame? Or perhaps, did you fail to make arrangements with your roommate/POA in case you had to stay in the hospital longer than expected?
You also state that you thought the staff working at Dr. Callery's office was a "mixed bag." If you had so many reservations regarding the doctor and his staff why did you proceed with the surgery?
Henry, all I'm trying to say is that you seem to be putting the blame on everyone else here, except for yourself. If all of your questions regarding surgery and post op recovery were not answered, did you take it upon yourself to seek the answers from elsewhere?
I would never try to minimize the pain you went through, and are suffering with daily. I can't even imagine how you must feel. If you feel the need to advocate alternatives to WLS then by all means do it. But, there seems to be more issues that you are dealing with then just the surgery itself.
Pick your battles wisely, and figure out with whom your anger should be directed toward. Is it the surgeon? His staff? The hospital staff? Your POA?
I wish you well and hope you can find some solace from your pain and suffering.
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Lap RNY Surgery - 8/17/09 
Highest - 258.2
Surgery - 253.2
Current - 183.0
Goal - 150.0 
Scale Ho #65
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