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Originally Posted by GTR-Mark
Any advice I could give would be stale since I've been with the same wonderful woman for 12 years now, but we did meet online. It was probably a more innocent time for meeting online - back when it was rare and people gasped when you told them. And yes, it was downright scandalous to meet someone from the internet then!
We did not meet on a dating site (if they even existed yet) - we meet on a local chat channel (IRC for those who remember). We talked like instant friends and met up the next day. There wasn't that dating pressure and that wasn't even the point.
I guess what I'm getting it is, it seems like you are putting too much pressure on yourself to find Mr Right and it is taking the fun out of the process. I'm way too far out of the scene to recommend how you might change up your thinking though.
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Mark,
Yes, I remember IRC. That is how I met my first guy...on a "talker" through telnet...old school! Not a dating site, which didn't really exist then.
I think that me putting too much pressure on myself is an understatement! I need to reframe the way I view dating. I would like to have a more casual attitude towards it all, and just let men "fit in" to my schedule and not place the focus on fitting my life around them. I think I'm starting to do that with the latest few guys that have been talking to me online. But once it gets real and in person, that's when I start to put the pressure on. It's hard because you don't want to not put any effort into it because men need to be pursued and feel that we're interested, but I'd love to just let them do all of the planning, suggestions, etc. and just let me go along for the ride. But my fear is if I take that stance I will be viewed as disinterested.