I'm pre-surgery so take my advice with a grain of salt, but before you dismiss it, take a few moments to really think about it.
WLS is like a wedding. You talk about it, you seriously talk about it, then you take the plunge and propose. With WLS you think about it, you seriously think about it then do the research, then you take the plunge and talk to your doctor about it.
At this point both the to-be bride and doctor have said "YES!" and you're on your way to the planning and preparation stage. You've ordered your wedding invitations and sent them out. You've ordered and gotten your medical tests done.
Now you're recieving replies from wedding guests.
Now you're recieving a reply from your surgeon.
The day approaches. You've been so excited about this and looking forward to it but now all your fears come to light.
What if I can't provide for my family? etc etc all the fears that come along with getting married. COLD FEET!
Same with surgery. You're making a drastic change in your life and now that the time is almost upon you, you're having a case of the cold feets.
Once you sit down, take a deep breath, take a step back and re-evaluate the thought process that brought you to that point... things make sense. You're still nervous as hell but this is a choice you made.. that you WANTED to make in order to improve your life.
You'll see that once you're through the fear stage and take your seat on the losers bench, that it's a choice you're glad you went through with.
Btw, in my story... the marriage is happily ever after, so your life post-WLS will also be happily ever after
