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I would like to make a suggestion and pass long some wisdom from and old-bee to those of you who are post op.
Would you, could you consider taking off your current weight from your signatures? I didn’t know if any of you would consider it after hearing what I think about it all.
I find that many of you that are post op often secretly spy on someone that is close to your surgery date and watch their numbers consistently. This is so unfair to YOU because there are many variables involved when it comes to losing weight.
When we first started here, most of us would only list our surgery weight and our goal weight that was it. Why? We didn’t want other people to judge themselves based off individual results. So what if MISS THANG is losing a pound day and you are losing 3 pounds a week? Your skin is coming back better, and there will be day when MISS THANG has a stall. Take your success day by day. If you would only weigh yourselves once a month you will see that you lose 20-35 pounds a month!! Not 1,2,4, pounds a week. See the contrast one is great, the other feels defeating. We would post milestones like, finally at my drivers lisc weight, Twoterville, onederland, goal, high school weight, etc. By doing it this way we had goals we were reaching, not day to day measurement of success or not.
I know how exciting losing is, I get it, and I’ve been there. If you chose to post your current weight because your proud, I don’t blame you at all. Its very exciting time. I just wanted to put some thought on the idea is all. Think about this though, pre WLS did you ever freely divulge your weight to anyone?
On a personal note, I did not post my current weight. I made that decision because I lost UNUSUALLY fast and never had a stall. Does that make me great or better than my peers? Hell no, it made me a freak and lucky as hell. I didn’t want my unusual loss to effect the spirit of those I cared about and encouraged. That’s probably why people were shocked to all mighty after 9 months I announced I was having reconstructive surgery already. But at 9 months I had stopped at a 120 pound loss and maintained that for 3 months. See what I mean? A freak, lol!
I am going to give ya some suggestions on getting through this really hard period of honeymoon:
Spying on your neighbors numbers
I know how hard this can be, but remember there are many variables involved. Height for starters (the taller you are the more muscle mass you have, therefore you burn faster) Weight (the heavier you are the faster you burn initially), sex (men burn faster, cuz they have more muscle and mass) age (younger metabolisms burn faster) activity (are ya moving)
weaning yourself off the scale
Call your BFF or mom or someone and GIVE YOUR SCALE TO THEM! Weigh once a month, or if that’s too much for you to handle twice a month is okay. I only weighed at the Dr's office. Let me ask you this, pre WLS how anxious were you to hop on that scale? Rare to never I bet. So what has changed? You are letting a tool measure your self worth. Gotta stop. Also, some people that are super successful, arent always honest either. Embelishment happens, perspective is their own. Do yourself a favor and get away from the scale, then re do your stats, list your GOAL weight. Keep your eyes on the prize, your goal weight. Right now you’re eyeing week by week results, that is unfair to yourself. Its not a race, k? Doesnt matter how long it takes to cross the finish line, crossing it is what counts. You will cross, victoriously!
I just wanna say you ar all doing great, you are all unique, but wonderfully enough we share a common bond that makes us family. Whatever you decide to do regarding posting your weight or ending your love affair with the scale, I wish you nothing but the greatest success. I see your success as my success, and Iwant everyone of you to be thin and healthy forever. Get er done... see ya at the finish line