a way to cope...
Before considering surgery, I know I told myself over and over that I was healthy and perfectly fine with the way I was. I probably wouldn't have gone on national TV and said it, but I told the people around me. Mostly, I just tried to convince myself.
We do what we have to do to make ourselves feel better. It's part of daily life. Instead of groveling around in self-pity, insecurities and depression, we deal with what we are and make the best of it. Who could expect any less? Who wants to wake up each morning and hate who we are and what we look and feel like? Who wants to sit around and think constantly about what we wish we were. Instead, we settle and get comfortable with it.
We tell ourselves we aren't as fat as we are, aren't as broke as we are, aren't as lonely as we are, etc. It's how we cope.
Then, at some point, at least for those of us on this board, the bottom falls out. We hit rock bottom and decide to take this GIANT leap called Gastric Bypass (or Lap Band) surgery.
It sounds like they haven't hit rock bottom yet. Or maybe they have and they are trying to make the best of it. Either way, I think all of us find our own coping mechanisms. I still struggle to cope about other things that are non-weight related.
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T r a c i
RNY LAP March 30, 2005
244 pre-op / 121 current and holding!
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