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MiladyB · 05-05-2008, 06:12 AM

Ah Marella, you're going to be fine but this first week is often known as HELL WEEK! There is a reason so many of us call it that because it is true. I don't want you to expect that after one week everything will be magically grand but I can assure you that it does get better. Please remember that you just had a major operation and you have the added pain of having it open that many of us didn't. Don't be hard on yourself take this time just for you. I'm sure it seems selfish but this HAS to be YOUR time. Take short walks in th sunshine or at least get outside and sit in a chair. Enjoy the day and all that it brings. Can you handle washing your hair at the sink? I know I'm nothing but a bitch when my hair is greasy and dirty. You should have seen me in the hospital after my plastic surgery. I finally just had enough of feeling like shit that I washed my hair in the little sink in the bathroom. It felt great! If you can't take a shower yet maybe if you can handle sitting on the edge of the tub and running some warm water. Ask your husband to help you wash your legs and feet. If he is anything like my DH (dear husband) he is feeling pretty lost right about now and just doesn't know what to do or say to help you. If you give him something to actually do for you sometimes it helps.

So anyway, sweetie, don't beat yourself up for your emotions being all over the place. It's natural and honestly expected. Just keep letting your husband know it isn't him and that he may not be able to 'fix' it right now so he doesn't need to try so hard. Just tell him this is something you need to go through for yourself but that it does get better.

Hang in there!! Remember you aren't alone in this.