suemaca

Wow!!!! Hi Gena...this sounds like you are trying to make sense of it all yourself by writing it all down and believe me, I have being doing the same for the past year.
I have found great support on this site-factually and otherwise. I was desperate to have the band(even travelling abroad for it as it wasnt done here in Ireland) but on the advice of 2 surgeons have decided that the bypass is a more reliable method of wls for ME. I emphasise ME because this took months for me to come to terms with my decision( a couple of sleepless nights too)and now I am waiting for the op.
I think there is no easy way around this-you have to read as much as you can, talk to as many people who had it(lucky you over there in the US, its almost unknown over here)MAKE your decision and be PROACTIVE sweety 'cos you sound like a great fighter.No one can do it for you and its YOUR body.
Dont let life slip by -i am mad I didnt do it when I was in my thirties or even forties-all that wasted energy losing and then putting back on the weight.
Cheer up-put all that sadness behind you and start researching!!!hugs Sue