Welcome home and to the loser's side, Marella!
Paul gives excellent advice!! There are so many emotions that go on after this surgery. You are often mad that you had to come to this decision at all, you are mad that you can't eat like your head is telling you it wants to, your hormones are all over the place and you swear you are in major PMS, you hurt, it isn't easy to move around and you just want to feel better. Yep, I snapped at my DH too and certain comments irritated me though I know they were meant to be supportive, they hit me bad. Not my DH's fault really...more just what was going on with me. Sometimes I think we forget how hard this can be on our SO and we need to remember to take a deep breath and sorta let things slide. The best thing you can do is communicate how you are feeling. I cried alot that first week and the whole family wondered what they were doing wrong....I had to let them know it wasn't them at all, it was me and that I didn't always know what was wrong so don't worry about trying to "fix" the problem...just let me cry. So they did. They just politely left the room and let me bawl. *L*
It gets better, I promise...but this road isn't easy and there will be some major bumps and stumbles but every day of life is worth it!
Once again, welcome to the loser's bench!
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Beth
Little Victories; Grand Rapids, MI
Bariatric Support Group
CherishedTeddyBear-(TT Bear Lover)
The Poetry of Milady
New Beginnings: My Journey to LIFE
359(BMI: 58.8)/ 148(BMI: 24.3)
Highest/Current
Diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea, high cholesterol,
peripheral vein disease, joint pain and 211 lbs GONE!! 
Century Club: July 3, 2006
ONE-derland: Dec. 22, 2006
Double Century: May 29, 2007
Goal: June 15, 2008
Lap RNY: 1/30/06-Dr Randal Baker
TT/BL: 09/21/07-Dr Ronald Ford
PS Revisions: 04/29/08-Dr Ronald Ford
Gallbadder removal: 06/09/08-Dr Randal Baker
"...if we pay attention to the fact that we can move,
breathe, feel, laugh, cry and notice sunsets,
there is cause for joy."
-Geneen Roth
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