Have any of you ever gotten irritated at the "positive" comments people try to give to you post-op?
I hated it when my husband said to me a few hours ago (while I was drizzling out the bloat), "good job, that's a few more ounces lost!".
I told him to stop it. Just because it sounds positive doesn't mean it is.
So he says, 'OK, no positive comments'.
All I say is, "repeat it to yourself first, does it really sound like a thing I'd like to hear when I'm in my current situation?"
Am I being picky?
I mean, you guys know this isn't easy, especially the first few weeks post-op of an open. Still, post-of of a lap is just as difficult because you still have to deal with the same "eating" issues. Although you want support, like, don't buy a bucket of chicken and eat it in front of me. Or don't cook that steak when I'm napping, please... at least for awhile. And say no to the 8-hour cooker because the smell makes me nauseas, type stuff.
My anxiety is all over the place, I know that, and I don't want to make this difficult on my family. I know full well the first month is the challenge of healing and change. But hey, there's got to be ways of being supportive that aren't belittling!
(BTW: I know my husband means well, he's a real sweety, we just both need a clue in this area).
