Hi Hawaiian and welcome to TT!
I am worried about your leg and would get it looked at ASAP. It does sound like DVT! I am sorry you are having to go through this. Everyone is SO different so try not to compare yourself to your partner.
I am only 2 weeks out and didnt hear that we were not supposed to eat popcorn! I took my son to a movie yesterday and ate some of his popcorn- just to try to see if I could. I could- no problem- until about 1 1/2 hr later! We were driving home and I had to find the nearest bathroom QUICKLY!! I wasnt sick to my stomach, if you know what I mean. It went through me that quickly. I wasnt in any pain, but I wont be rushing to try any more of his popcorn in the near future!!!
As far as the 'comfort foods' go- you have to find something else you can rely on when you are stressed etc. Something that is not food related. Do you guys have a support group in your area? if so maybe attend some meetings.
Good luck and I hope all this passes so you can enjoy your new body!
Caran