Originally Posted by coptergirl

Hi Mason -

I, too, am a "senior member" (which only means you have posted more than 50 or 100 posts). I sat back yesterday and watched all of the drama unfold, and wasn't going to say anything. These folks, and now you, are my family. I have been around long enough to have developed a relationship and rapport with them, and would very much like to get to know you better as well.

I understand that you are in the beginning processes of getting the surgery, and it can be a very nerve racking time - it is a major decision, and a life changing one at that. Your feelings are normal.

When we type things on this forum...that is all it is - the written word. No tone, or inflection, or body language can be seen or heard to discern what the other persons intentions are. I know Duckie well enough, and have talked to her enough to know the sound of her written voice to know that she couldn't hurt a fly. But I also know her (and others) well enough to know that when there is nastiness displayed toward them without cause- they won't play, and they will defend themselves.

You posted a thread for help as a newbie on a board of folks who have a family-like bond. Then not an hour and a half later posted a sarcastic post about no one replying. I am on the east coast, and at the time you posted your first post was in the shower getting ready for work. Your second post? I was at work reconciling an Amex statement, and didn't have a chance to see the board until 11 my time. Know what? I'll betcha other people were busy at that time of the morning as well, and weren't watching the board, or perhaps they had nothing to offer because they didn't have the knowledge to assist you until Corrine posted. And to top that off, if they were on the west coast - they were probably still sleeping. My point is not to upset you further, or insight more negative-ness on this board, but to point out to you that its really not all about you. I agree with John that its best that we overlook things, not take them so personally, and get on with this business of living.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do.