Mark, I am sad to hear that you are leaving.
I know what you mean about wanting to hear positive things but...sometimes we need to hear and know the very real nagative things that can and might happen to us along this journey.
If it seems they are all jumping down your throat and being "rude" perhaps it's just that it's hard to hear the underlying tones and voices through a p.c. monitor. It's not like in reality where you can hear the comfort or concern. Words are words on here, plain and simple.
But in truth, as I was told by my doctor...lettuce is not an easily digestable food even 4-6 months post op and sometimes it gets stuck on the way down and then starts to irritate your pouch and can cause you a whole bunch of other problems. So see that is why some here become alarmed hearing that you even "tried" it. Because you are so fresh from surgery that doing these experiments right now could and might land you back in the emergency room.
I hope you don't get offended by anything I said. I am not excusing anyone or anything just trying to shed some light on human behaviour at times.
*hugs*
Stop by sometime and we can talk through messages on your profile. Right now is not the time for you to be alone , trust me I know.