You know, this kind of reminds me of one of my favorite analogies when it comes to the effort required to get what you want. Goes like this...if you want a Coke out of the machine, and the price is 50 cents. You put in 45 cents and nothing happens.
You have 2 choices...you can sit and whine about the fact that you put in 45 cents...you tried so hard...it's not FAIR! Or, you can dig deep and come up with the other nickel.
You need to just put it to her just that way. She's trying hard. But the price of what she wants is higher than what she's paying. She's wasting her time, and yours with just 45 cents.
She asked for your expertise...now she needs to decide if she's going to use it. If not, you should move on. I firmly believe the old "You can lead a horse to water" thing. If you've lead her to water and she ain't drinking, your time can be spent better elsewhere.
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Debbie
Lap RNY 8/6/07
Highest/Day of surgery/current/goal
251/237/133/130
Goal! I did it!
104 pounds gone since my RNY
118 total pounds gone forever!
I finally have a "normal" BMI
Reached my first goal of 145...and setting a new one of 135.
Reached 135 and have decided to lose another five if I can.
I'm in the 130's for the first time since puberty!
TT Gym Rat #95
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