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I'm doing all I can to help this women. She is 44 years old has a great family and marriage but, has some serious issues that she has yet to fully deal with. As a result she lets fear rule her decision making among other things(huge need for acceptance, self esteem issues).

In the gym her fear is a serious hinderence. She practically begged me to train her. Its been a little while and I fear my lack of patience is taking its toll on me. If she refuses to do what I tell her to how in the world can I possible help her? Working out in the gym and pushing yourself is about attitude and you either have it or you don't. If you don't its nearly impossible to get anything of serious substance accomplished.

When I started training her a little over a week ago she was 154 now she is 149 and wishes to be 140. How do I deal with someone who will literally debate me for 10 minutes on a treadmill about the speed? Saying she can't do this and can't do that.

She finally got over her fear two nights ago and discovered im not a moron and turns out she can do something she thought she couldn't. I do not enjoy debating with people about things. Either she is emotionally ready to change and do the work or she isn't. I can't force anyone to do anything let alone something they are afraid of.

How in the world can I best help this women. She has a wonderful heart but, I just simply don't have the time to babysit her for 30 minutes to get a 1hrs worth of real work out.

Any real advice/imput/suggestions im seriously open to hear.

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Any action ever taken out of fear is always going to be the incorrect one.