Marie,
The best things in life are worth fighting for. A sober healthy husband and a sober relationship is one of those things.
My only advise to you is this: Set clear boundries with yourself. Like if he doesn't stay in treatment then say he must be attending a group once or more times a week. Or something like that. If he refuses to stay within the boundaries than you have to decide what to with your life from there. Drug, alcohol and other destructive addictions are harmful to others and to yourself. That's why you have to protect yourself from someone else's destruction.
Boundaries are the most important thing you can do for yourself. Love yourself enought to set them.
If you need to talk more. Let me know. I help run and Recovery ministry at my church, we have about 100 people that come every week. We have a group for the spouses as well as the addicts.
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Barbara Johanning
01-14-05, Potts Open
5'4" 247/157/140 -90
BMI 43.7/now 26.9
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