Wow Gwennie - I'm glad somebody - anybody - understood what I was trying to say. Great minds eh?
I think you are brilliant at expressing yourself and you are right, the mind/body thing is so difficult to explain.
One of my deepest regrets is the HUGE amount of Will Power I (we all) put into yo-yo dieting for all those years - over and over again only to be labelled by society as not having any 'Will Power'! Sad thing is that I believed this about myself - even though I knew deep down inside that Will Power wasn't the real problem. To be honest I probably regret the deep demoralisation this caused more than having been obese (which was bad enough!).
However, this surgery has confirmed to me that it wasn't a lack of Will Power that caused my 'dieting' failures, it was my constant battle between 'Mind and Matter' and it is this realisation that is the best ongoing WOW moment for me ever.
Yours, in harmony XX