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Originally Posted by genameana
Would not blame the weight loss, although I do see where I see what bothers me more now that I can not eat away my unhappiness. My sex drive is in overdrive and my unsatisfactory sex life has become even more frustrating.  All the differences we had before are still there- yet seem to come under a microscope. |
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I don't think the surgery changes much in the sense that whatever was in your relationship before(or wasn't) is now magnified.
If you were truly strong and secure before you will be after you loose the weight. If your relationship wasn't secure before(even if you sometimes think it is, sometimes later you find out it wasn't) then it certainly won't be afterwards and now it will things will be much more dramatic.
If a guy has self esteem issues he just simply won't be okay with you getting thin and getting attention. For alot of you women you find after you drop a good bit of weight your commuication is percieved different and taken differently. The general public starts to treat you differently. All of this takes its toll on a guy who isn't balanced. Same go's for the women.
Turns out all my female relationships before weren't balanced and thats why things changed so greatly after I had lost the weight. They all had to end but, what can ya do. I had to be honest with myself and its not righ for me to lead anyone on.
Your marriage I should think would fall under the same perameters as any of my relationships albeit just much more intense and life altering. Ending a marrage with years behind it and children is a whole different ball game than ending a 6 month relationship.
Water seeks its own level. I wish you the best in your relationship, im sorry you are having trouble.