Hello Greg,
What a warm and caring post on what is a more common aspect than we allow ourselves to be aware of!
a) a good lubricant
b) a pillow under your wife's bottom to tilt her pelvis and thereby changing the angle of penetration, thus reducing the air.
c) However, more importantly, start from scratch. Foreplay builds confidence. I suggest you start as if on a first date (without her knowing?) i.e. by just holding hands (and nothing else expected). Progress to stroking on a next "visit", then gradually increase the physical closeness to an arm around her shoulders, stroking your wife's cheek... With time you'll end up lying in bed, naked, just holding each other (with no intentions), then gradually stroking... Gentle caressing of the breasts... Then more erogenous zones, all taking perhaps 3-4 weeks from start. It is heavy duty for a husband, but it does help and will no doubt pay you back manyfold later!
By your taking time, she will relearn to rediscover herself and gradually awaken arousal and sexual confidence. Once more at ease with her "new" body, she will be able to address your needs as a couple.
In the meantime, in your own privacy, perhaps a bit of manual relief takes the edge off a low sexual life. Men's needs must equally be respected, but in this case, to help your wife through her difficult patch, you need to give her the time (say within 3 months?). If you get your own satisfaction, you are far more able to support her and your marital relationship will strengthen.
Sexual harmony is of a far greater importance than most give credit to I think and your marriage will only be stronger for addressing the blip with compassion, practicality and time.
Best wishes and fingers crossed for you both!
Vim
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