If I can offer up an opinion, Ladies.
Reading your daily updates, uplifts, doubts, and courage is inspiring, soul stirring, and I feel priviledged to think that you would trust your squishy insides with us. Please both of you, please use this post to share your thoughts, fears, fluffy fantasies, rawest pain. Let us be the nonjudgemental group ears and shoulders for leaning against. Every single one of us who is a parent knows what kind of pain and fear Trina falls asleep and wakes up to. And who of us lucky enough to have a beloved could easily hand them over to enemy soldiers in enemies' lands? Your vulnerability is painful and physically taxing. I'm quite sure I speak for many of us when I say, "please, stay with us, hand your burdens off for awhile; let us join with you as you walk this long, scary time of uncertainty and dangerous situations."
Okay, so that sounds really hokey, I apologize!
But please believe me when I say that I read this thread and take away with me strength and inspiration, and to please keep on posting here--we're all the better for it.