Know your self!
It is a vulnerable and annoying time. The better you look, the more people are attracted to you and the more you have to deal with. Some of us actually were heavy to avoid that attention.
In any case, I felt two faced saying, "Well they are superficial to pay attention to me now when the ignored me when I was fat" The fact is, I like men who are attractive too and I'll flirt with them. If a man is 400 pounds, I don't ignore him, but he'll have to work much harder to get my attention. It is human nature. So if you're annoyed, you can be annoyed, but being realistic can help you not hate the world for noticing you now and not before. They can't help it. You're beautiful, feel good and are attractive. This is what we wanted, right?
That said, you will start to build an armory of defenses, little catchy phrases etc. to get you through. You'll build up a wall of sorts. A list of questions, standards etc. that narrow down the field for dating, flirting, stay aways etc. Now I don't know if you were always heavy, but the first time the man you "couldn't get" before comes by - it could get ugly. Make sure you're firmly centered and know what you deserve. Don't settle - you don't have to. never did really, but it may not have felt like it. Be true to who you are now, not to who you were before.
My point is, you'll have more choices. Be careful. Many of us who lose the weight and get the attention go nuts. You have to evolve your head too - which is what you are saying you want to do - you're right. You have to find a balance and you will, just don't get swept away before you have acheived it.
That would be my advice anyway - it may be a crock.
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