Do you think that maybe your husbands were afraid that you would leave them when you lost your weight? I wonder if it is a confidence issue with your men? In addition, when you change, your partner has to change with you or you are left at different levels or places and it is difficult to communicate when you are at different places in life's journey. My partner has been supportive, but she has expressed concern that I will cheat on her or leave her for another person. We have sought out counseling to address these concerns. If your partners are willing maybe you might want to do the same. This may help build their self confidence. We (as a society) tend to believe that men do not have confidence issues and that their self esteem is always high, but many times men's aggressive and non supportive behaviors are related to their confidence and self esteem.
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