Like Marty said, only you know what you can tolerate and what you need from your relationship. So you need to do some self searching and find what you want and need.
I will tell you though that if he continues to treat you in a way that is unacceptable to you after surgery, you will have a bigger problem with it. You will have so much more confidence and realize that your deserve more. I really didn't think I would feel that way post op; I thought I was still confident enough pre-op, but I was not. So just prepare yourself.
I also want to add that separate money, IMO is not a good idea. The money is for joint things, so it should be in a joint account. But that is just my thought on the matter, and I realize that not everyone sees it that way.
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Rachael
Lap RNY 6/6/07
Dr. Raftopoulos - Pittsburgh
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"Nothing great is ever acheived without much enduring" - St. Catherine of Sienna
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