ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass and Lap Band® Forum - View Single Post - +/- 2 years post op...what is your challenge?

Zenomia · 09-24-2007, 12:16 PM

I think it's fair to say we aren't the same people we were MO. I know I am NOT! Where I was confident I am now unsure, where I was strong I now feel volunerable, where I was hiding behind my fears - I now face them head on! I think the difference for some of us is that I do know what it's like to be "normal", or not Obese (MO) When I was younger, much younger (HS) I was only slightly bigger than I am now. Sure this was short lived, but I have that experience to draw upon. Others who have been MO their whole lives are going to have a more drastic changes to deal with with no prior experience.

I know it's easy to say we are the same, we think the same, we have the same values, beliefs...but at the same time we have changed everything around us 180 degrees. We have changed our clothes, looks, foods, habits, coping skills, friendships...everything, though sometimes small and insignifigant....it all adds up to something HUGE!

I am still in that in-between phase. I have more plastics to do in a few months, and possibly more after that....(depending on finances). I am not quite at the point where there is Nothing left to do. I guess, and this is just a guess, that at that point I will have to really work hard at Maintaining everything I have done. It seems like a bit of a anti-climax after the past 16 months, but I am pretty sure it's going to be the most important part of this journey. Once we get where we want to be....we have to work at keeping it that way!!!

Lisa...the good news is, if your happy, everyone's happy. If your not....it spreads! Your weight, though fluxing may stay there for a bit, may drop back down in a year or two. Who knows. These tools are tricky little devils and everyone's works differently than the last persons. I know one lady that drops and gains 20#s yearly! It's a really bizzare coaster we have decided to ride....just keep hanging on!!

Bridget - I don't know you, as you don't know me...Though I feel for you in your loss of friends and mistrust of new friendships. I believe that is something I am dealing with right now with a few in my life. It's really bizzare to watch how people who never gave you a thought now treat you as a threat. I don't have that figured either.... It is good to know that it's happening to others as well. Oh, and though I don't know you, I did ask Robin after you a few weeks ago. So, even those who you don't know...noticed you weren't here...don't sell everyone short, you may have people out there pulling for you that you don't even know about. Such is the great thing about the internet!

Lisa...What a nice thoughtful question.