I felt like I was leaving my wife behind when I started down the path. She had more co-morbidities and I felt she needed the help as much as I did. I started the research and talked to my doctor about it. She agreed that I was a good candidate.
I talked with her about my feelings about having the surgery instead of Jane. I felt a little guilty for some reason. The doctor said that it might be better to have the surgery before Jane so that she could see what she would be going through and so that I would be recovered enough to help her.
Jane came with me to the surgeon's group session and decided she was going to pursue the surgery too. In the end, she ended up having the surgery two weeks before me. Life takes interesting twists sometimes.
I think your wife's feelings are very normal. You need to reassure her that your feelings toward her will not change and that this will make you a healthier, more energetic husband and father. You will be able to help so much more with the baby.
Best wishes!
-Mike-
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