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fitbefore40 · 04-26-2007, 11:48 AM

Beth - thank you so much for the articles - they were SO helpful and I understood every story!
This one is totally me:

A Common Story
Female patients often recount how their mothers were irrationally
obsessed with their own weight and imposed their anxiety on them.
Typically, the patient tells me that their mother didn’t have a genuine
weight problem, but rather an obsession with possibly becoming overweight.
The mother monitors every calorie, fat gram and nibble. She
tells her daughter that she needs to be careful because men don’t
like fat women and that she will never get married, or have friends or a
successful career. Ironically, these food restrictions can lead to binge
eating and obesity. Now it’s twenty-five years later. Although obese, the
daughter now has a husband and kids, a good career and many wonderful
friends… but she’s still unhappy. Why? She continues to believe
the irrational beliefs that her mother instilled when she was a child.

My mom died from complications of an eating disorder - It was never about thinking rationally with her. When I start feeling BIG, I'm going to force myself to think rationally. I know that sounds so easy for most people, it's just not for me sometimes.

Dyann - I totally relate to the clothing comments. I'm a hip-less and butt-less freak of nature . . . My average size is 6 - I'm an 8 on top and 4 on bottom . . . I just call myself a 4 cause it sounds so good . . . I've never tried the dress try-on thing, but I did go into one of those boutique-y denim places where they wait on you hand and foot while getting you $200 pairs of jeans . . . and I tried on about 15 pairs of jeans . . . My fave, Habitual Jeans and People's Liberation . . . I wear a size 27 in both those jeans, whatever that means . . . but the sizes go down to 24 - so I think I'm not tiny . . . 24s are tiny. BUT I'm damn happy with a 27 (and about a month later, I found some Habitual jeans at a consignment shop and snapped them up for $50 . . . they make me look like I have a butt . . . imagine, ME with a butt!!)

Thanks all for the replys - life is so much easier on the board . . .