Originally Posted by fitbefore40

I was just wondering. I know that today I'm wearing a pair of size 4 petite cropped pants and a sized medium sweater - but I don't think I'm that small at all. I'm not trying to lose weight anymore, b/c my doctor told me not to - but I don't see it. I don't have anybody around that seems to help - it's like everyone that knows me just says LOOK AT YOU, CAN'T YOU SEE IT?? There just are not that many people that understand what I've been through. When I go to support group, a lot of the people are pre-op and they seem to think that I'm NUTS for having any size issues. (my husband and best friend say the same thing) I need a friend that understands this type of thing. I want to be able to just say what I feel without all these people feeling so darn defensive - they say things like "you are skinny now, do you just want to hear that over and over?" And "just be happy that you don't have any problems with your weight now" ARGHHHHH!! I think this is a problem.