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Blaqfyah · 02-06-2007, 02:49 PM

So I had a friend who had this procedure done last May. And at first she didn't tell anyone she was thinking about it. But slowly as she was losing weight she started to tell some of her closest friends. And being the females that were are of course there was some negative talk to go along with the positive. So having been on both sides of the conversation, I am very nervous about telling these same friends that I will be having the same surgery in 13 days.

What I have come to realize is that we are basically the biggest of the girls in this group (there another but she's against this surgery). And we have always played a certain "role" in this friendship. And I can honestly say I have allowed myself to play this role--the "big" friend/sister- in my friendships and in my family.

I can now really see why my friend decided to keep this surgery a secret. And a part of me wants to do the same thing.

I think that it will really be interesting to see how my friends and families will react to the soon to be new me.

I am not going to lie. I am really excited to see her also. I can't wait to meet the skinny me/the fashionable me/the pretty me/the sexy me. The closer I get to the surgery the worse my self esteme gets. I pretty much have put my life on hold these past 3 months. And its because I am waiting for the new me to emerge.

But I guess I am worried about alienating my friends the way that my friend did. I now know that it was not purposeful. She was on a totally different journey and none of us could go with her. And now that I am starting my own journey...I am scared.

And this is not to bash my friends. They are beyond wonderful. There issue with the my friend is that she chose to keep a secret and lie about it. She said that she lost the weight by diet and exercise. But yet very few of her habits changed and she didn't go to the gym.

Sorry for the long post.