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In July of 2000 6 months after our divorce my ex got married. My ex is a good father and a good provider he just sucks at being a husband.

So in Oct 2000 1 month over my 2 year anniversary since surgey I was off to be with my mom and get my life together. I had sold everything I owned and flew to be with my mom. I had $2000 cash and a few possisions. 4 days after arriving there my mom advised me she was kicking me out for being a pig and leaving a dish on the floor. We never had any kind of relationship to begin with. I thought what am I going to do now?

I got online and saw my ex boyfriend online. I started pouring my heart out to him telling him everything that had happened. He told me he still loved me and leaving me was the biggest mistake he ever made. He told me to go to a hotel and wait and he was gonna drive up and pick me up and bring me back. I did that. When I saw him we hugged and cried. He said Im taking you home with me and we are going to make this work this time. I had a renewed faith. We packed his car with all of my belongings and drove to back with $2000 to our name, only one car (his), no jobs and no place to live (he had been living with his parents again). We stayed with his best friend for 3 days until we rented a apt. Then came the job hunting. We were both lucky and we both got a job right away at a new center. Right when the money ran out we got our first paycheck! What a relief. With a job now I bought a used car. Within 1 month of arriving we had a place to live, 2 jobs and 2 cars! Things were finally looking up. We saved every penny we could and he helped me pay for the airfare to fly the kids in for Christmas! It was so good to see the kids! We had a good Christmas.

We worked hard. I wasent throwing up any more. I could keep food down. I was feeling better every day. I even gained about 10 pounds that I needed. I got to have the kids every christmas, Easter and all summer long. I called them at least twice a week. I was finally getting on my feet.

My boyfriend and I worked together and our relationship grew strong. Within a year I felt I was on my feet enough to want to have custody of my daughter. I called my ex and told him I wanted her back. No big suprise he said no. I had to go back and sue him in a Calif court for custody and there was no way I could afford that. I was back to being crushed and pissed. He had promised he would give her to me. Again he lied!

From Oct 2000 to March 2006 We worked hard and got promoted through the company working our way up. My health was almost perfect and I felt really good. We made lots of friends. Life was good. Work was perfect and all was right with our world. I saw the kids every chance I got (xmas, easter and summer) and I looked forward to their visits.

In March of 06 our world changed again. Our company was opening another center and they wanted my boyfriend and I to fly out every 2 weeks and train. We jumped on that opportunity. We flew to out to do traning. We had decided we were going to look into the opportunity of transferring there. I would be closer to the kids!

We didnt have to wait long. HR and management would come into our classrooms and just watch us. Within a couple of days they approached us and asked us if we would consider transferring. What a blessing! There was lots of opprotunity for advancement because it was new so we decided to both apply. We both tested and went through the grueling interviews. The day before we were to fly back HR approached both of us seperatly and offered both of us a job with a pay raise! We were so excited we both accepted! Everything we worked for so hard was paying off.
They asked when we could start. We told them give us 60 days and we will be here.
We flew back with 2 new jobs offers and 60 days to move. The company paid for everything and we pulled in town on the middle of June. We took a couple of weeks off to get settled and reported to work July 06.

My life is good now. My health is good. My relationship is wonderful. My job is great. The kids and I are very close and we love each other very much. I can finally say "I SURVIVED!" I made it!

To my ex I only have 2 things to say- You can try to destroy someone and be hateful but "you cant keep a strong woman down" and "What goes around comes around". You will have to answer for what you have done some day!

Thank you for allowing me to get all this off my chest. Ive cried alot thinking about everything over the last couple of days putting this in this journal.

The moral- "DONT EVER GIVE UP! Winners NEVER quit and Quitters NEVER win!