You are about the same age as me and I too am feeling a lot better about myself, so much so that I am getting more attention than before as well.
I do have to say though that I do agree with your friend about waiting until you get to know someone before telling them about your operation. Or when I say "wait", definitely a bit longer than on the 1st date!! I only think this, because I think there are a lot of people out there (and especially men) that might just not understand what it is all about and right or wrong, may judge you on it rather than getting to know YOU first. It is not their fault, it is just peoples ignorance of the whole procedure and why we would go through such a thing "just" to be thin.
Having said all that, if you feel comfortable telling someone what you have done, then if they can't deal with it, then it is their loss.
I personally havent told anyone just yet, but that is only because I am only 4 weeks post op and want to recover fully first and I also feel that it is a very personal thing to me, and I dont want to tell any man about it, unless I feel that it may lead somewhere.
Regarding the whole "eating out" problem, well you could either tell them that you are on a diet and just want to eat a starter and that is quite enough, or order a meal and get suddenly full one bite into it ha!! The other option however would be not to go for a meal for a couple of weeks to a month or something and then by then, you should know whether you are ready to tell this guy what you have had done.
You could also just say that you have had an operation and at the moment, your food intake is limited. You do not need to say anymore, and I don't think that anyone would probe into it any further anyway.
I know I have waffled on here, so apologies if I haven't made any sense, but I jsut had to reply to you as your predicament is exactly the same as mine, but all I will say, is just wait until you know if both f you want to meet again, before telling people your most intimate secret.
I hope this has helped even a little bit.
Good luck, and also good luck on the date - let us know how you get on.
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Alayna 
Open RNY 1st November 2006
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pre-op / current / my goal
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