Awwww Whitney......I'm sorry things are going that way for you. I'm not sure what the answer is since I don't know all your situation. But I'll throw out a few random thoughts on it. But I know you will have to find your own answer and clarity, but hopefully some of us can share our thoughts and feelings and maybe give you new angles to look at. I do live in the Northeast, and it does indeed get cold and bleak (for quite awhile), then before the reprieve, comes the rain and mud.
But also we have the nicest Fall with cool, comfy weather and beautiful changing leaves........and early winter and times of a slight chill and beautiful new snow on the pine trees while you play Christmas carols. But I realized recently though, that although I have fantasies about moving to warmer climates, I would really miss the seasons. So, I think in my case that it was good that I have had too many ties here to move, as I am pretty sure mine is just a grass is greener idea. I don't know how much you would have to work or how much money and freedom you have to travel, but there's nothing better than being tired of winter and jumping on a plane and heading to warmth. It's somehow much better than always being in the warmth to me.
So, if you had the chance to leave when it got to you maybe you could handle it? But honestly, I would not even think of compromising at all unless he compromises by working on the relationship. I think it would be horrible for you to be without friends and family and just be there with your absent husband.
I really hope he is able to see you and realize what he stands to lose. We love ya.