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stakeda · 11-19-2004, 07:32 PM

I swear I have to make more time for "me". I seem to be spending every minute either working, mothering, bossing, etc. Just no time hanging out with "Stacie".

I found out that I actually DO have a catyract in my right eye. The Optimologist said that, at my age, this usually only happens when you've taken a big "blow to the head", or some perscription drugs can do this (none of which I have taken). I really couldn't connect what may have happened to cause this type of health problem. Then, I spoke with my best friend, Christy. She reminded me that my ex-husband used to beat me up when he felt like it.

Oh my God, that's it! That must have been what one would call a "blunt trauma". What a jerk! He scarred me for life! Anyway, I have to have surgery to remove the catyract. This sucks! December 15th, I have to go in and have my eye dialated. Weird.

So, my ex-husband is staying with his brother in Oahu, HI. He is actually off of drugs and trying to get his life back together. So, he called me collect the other night and asked for my advice about how to deal with his brother's resentment towards him. What was my answer? "Paul, you have been a MAJOR A$$ to everyone in your family for years. Humble yourself and do whatever you brother tells you to do. You are at his mercy and you deserve everything you get!" Believe it or not, he took my advice. And in the mean while, he apologized for constantly beating me up, both verbally and physically. He acknowledged the fact that he probably caused the catyract in my eye. He apologized over and over. I acted like I don't care either way, but I guess WAY DOWN DEEP INSIDE, it does make a difference in some way or another.

Anyway, I like my new position with the company. I feel comfortable in my abilities there so far. I hope I live up to the expectations.