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Originally Posted by mindycure
Hi everyone.. I am in the early stages of my journey with gastric bypass. I am still not 100% sure I want to do it. I come to a moment when I am sure I want to do it, then I think what if I die or something and leave my child.. See my ex committed suicide a couple of years ago, leaving our son without a father, my son was 4 at the time. So needless to say we have been in and out of therapy. Well I have met someone new and have since remarried, he is a great guy and loves my son to death. But "what if " I keep saying in my head that something should happen to me and he loses another parent. I know if I didn't have a child I would do this in a heartbeat. I am just such a paranoid person and don't know what to do. As far as the risks are concerned. I am not overly overly obese, I am 130 pounds over my ideal weight, I think at my first consulation at the doctor's office I weighed in at 257. So while I feel disgusting weighing this much, I just don't know if I am making the right decision. Now I know no one can make my mind up for me, but I just needed to get this off my chest and wondered if anyone else struggled with the stress of "should I or shouldn't I" and how you came to your decision. Thanks for listening.
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Wow, I am so sorry that happened to you and your son. My first thought was to wonder how old your son is.......have you asked him about the surgery and his thoughts? I know for me, I was not happy or healthy at my weight.....about 100 extra pounds. I would suggest you go to a counselor to talk about how the 2 issues become intertwined and see if you can come to a better peace about the surgery. Maybe they could even involve your son if they felt it was appropriate. If you decide against it, then we still welcome you here to talk about your struggles......healthy foods, exercise, snacking tips, etc. It's right for you not to take the decision lightly and I hope you can come to some clarity. Welcome to the board.
