Just need to vent...pretty long
Hello all. Hope this post finds everyone well and healthy! Here I am at 13 days out and I have already lost 19 1/2 pounds. I can feel my clothes getting more and more loose and people say they can see a difference. I see a difference too...I HAVE ANKLES AGAIN!!! LOL But I am dealing with two personal issues, both having to do with my two best friends in the world. And both dealing with addictions.
One friend I have has been my best friend for 12 years and is severely overweight. Ever since I started this journey, she and I have seemed to grow apart. When my surgery was approved and I had a date scheduled she said she was extreamly jealous of me. I keep trying to tell her to start the ball rolling and I'll be there for her, but she keeps coming up with excuses as to why she can't. This is really frustrating because she doesn't want to hear about my success and I really want to share it with her. Is there anyway to get through to her so she doesn't see my success as a threat to our friendship??
The other one is a bit more delicate. This friend I have had for almost two years and I simply don't feel complete without him in my life. Which is why I am reaching out for advice instead of turning my back on him. I have a strong fear that he is into the drug scene pretty deep. I know he smokes pot on a pretty regular basis and I know that he has done crystal meth in the past, but he SWEARS to me that he has stopped using that. There is just something inside that won't let me believe him 100%. I don't know what it is...maybe his being secretive, or maybe his calling me nosy. He seems to get on edge when I'm at his house. He won't leave me in a room alone for more than a minute for fear of what?? I DON'T KNOW!! I just want to know A) How can I make him see that I'm here for him, reguardless of his drug use and B) How can I convince him that there's no future in the stuff??
Any and all advice on one friend, the other, or both will be GREATLY appreciated!! Thanks a bunch!
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